DPP: Vent at Joe's Bar

[rayruz.livejournal.com]

Hey, I know I said I was going to post a two day thing? Eh... I changed my mind! :D I'm not sure if we've done this one before but I figured I'm going to go for it anyways. Tomorrow's post is going to come a little bit late in the day and I might do the two-day challenge then, because it's a little involved and takes a bit more time.

Anyways, what are we venting at Joe's about? 

Unpopular Pilots (and other Fandom) Opinions.

I thought some of these might be coming up since we've been thinking so much about the scenes and the voting. Ever feel alone in what you think? Are you afraid to speak your mind sometimes because the other shippers don't agree with your opinion? Well pull up a barstool, get a drink, and spill it. Bartenders are, of course, the everyman's therapist.

Comments

[damao2010.livejournal.com]

I'm afraid I can't agree with you here. I also believe that marriage is something that should be taken very serioulsy at all times and, as a rule, I have very strong feelings about infidelity. However, I believe it is wrong to insist on a mistake. And Lee and Dee's marriage was a mistake. They should never have got married in the first place because no matter what we might believe Dee's feelings were, we are positive that Lee never truly loved (not the same way he loved Kara). I guess it's possible to believe he was trying to fool himself into believing he truly loved and that they had a chance of making it work when he first proposed and when they were together on the Pegasus (even if we consider he did it after Kara left him on New Caprica). However, after the "affair", whether or not it went beyond making out, there was no way he could have continued to lie to himself. There was no way it could have worked out if he was hung up on another woman. If he wanted to divorce his wife to stay with that woman. Under these circumstances, to try to go on with it by sheer force of will is just sad and tragic. Not only for him but for Dee, as well. If he couldn't be the husband she deserved, it would be more honest and less painful in the long run to call everything off regardless of what Kara decided to do.

[rachelindeed.livejournal.com]

You make good points - I also agree that Lee and Dee's marriage was a mistake from the start. I think in the end divorce was the right choice. But I think he owed it to her to be honest about his feelings and to ask her for a divorce upfront rather than having an affair. And I also think it wasn't unreasonable of him to try to recommit to the marriage and see if he could make it work in TABFAYW. I don't think he'd ever really committed to his wife before; I don't think he had made a conscious choice to put Dee before Kara the way he tried to do in this episode. I think he wanted to try, really try. But you're right that feelings can't be forced. I doubt he could have made it work in the end, but I think he needed to find that out - I think the marriage needed to rise or fall on its own merits rather than on Kara Thrace, which is what it wound up doing by the end of the season.

In short, I hear what you're saying, and I think Lee should have learned by that point that he was not going to get over Kara, and I think if he lied to Dee about what he was feeling during their reconciliation scene then that was another tragic and hurtful decision. But I think that maybe he was sincere in thinking that he was ready to finally give himself a chance to fall in love with his wife. Maybe that's just another way of saying that he continued to lie to himself - but I'm not sure he and Dee were wrong in deciding to give their relationship a chance before they abandoned it. We can agree to disagree, there, I guess :)