DPP: Pilots And Parents

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There are many, many things that went into the making of pilots as we know them, and their parents are a huge part of it right from the start, especially since it turns out they both had absent fathers (Kara's dad going AWOL altogether, Bill making only sporadic appearances in his sons' lives) and abusive mothers (it's heavily implied that Lee's mother was emotionally/verbally abusive).

Today I'd like us to contemplate - how did their relationships with their parents shape the people they became? And how did that affect Lee and Kara's relationship with each other?

Any thoughts? Theories? What do you think of the way the show handled pilots' parents?

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I think it's a great subject and I tried to explore it in two of my videos both dedicated to Kara and Lee's childhood and their issues with their parents.
http://vimeo.com/15945498
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bJciCss8uI0

I remember I made it a point to avoid showing Lee directly in Like O, Like H and Kara in Merry Go Round but doing the best to convey they're still there in each other's lives even before the time they met and especially when they're adults... like invisible shadows.

All their misunderstandings and almost-togetherness steams from what their parents put in their heads like a poison. And sadly, like we all do - pilots couldn't do anything but believe those ugly messages and manifest those beliefs in their life through their actions. But what amazes me to no end is their hearts perseverance, that despite that hell they had to live through when they were kids, physical or psychological, they still were trying to make it work years later, that they couldn't help wanting to connect and open up in each other's presence because it was more powerful an influence than those patterns of thinking inside their heads driving them to do crazy things to each other. <3

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But what amazes me to no end is their hearts perseverance, that despite that hell they had to live through when they were kids, physical or psychological, they still were trying to make it work years later, that they couldn't help wanting to connect and open up in each other's presence because it was more powerful an influence than those patterns of thinking inside their heads driving them to do crazy things to each other.

That is so beautifully put. So many of the obstacles to their relationship came from their own fears and guilt, and their childhoods explain a lot of that, but I love the fact that they did break the pattern by the end.