DPP: Lee Adama Has No Friends

[cynicalshadows.livejournal.com]

Friends can be lovers, and lovers can be friends, but what if the person involved is your only friend? This is a question that has been floating around in my head for a while concerning Lee. Kara has Helo, but Lee seems to have nobody as a friend besides Kara. Could this have contributed to his reluctance to admit his feelings for her? Was Lee just scared to risk his sole friendship for a chance at love? Who else could Lee have befriended and could a confidant have affected his relationship with Kara?

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[entaiaime.livejournal.com]

I think that while Lee is friendly with people, he definitely doesn't have any real friends. Even Kara is not really a friend because there is so much emotional baggage that Lee keeps bottled up inside. Inevitably that gets in the way of really opening up and confiding and being true friends with her.

Yes! This. I never thought that Kara and Lee were friends either because of how they treat each other. They were never able to share anything that was really important.. it was all teasing and friendly banter. But they always locking their true emotions up. That's not real friendship.

Even when Lee tried to tell Kara how he wanted to die in the spacewalk, she just glossed it over instead of really hearing him. I think they loved each other, truly. I think they knew how to be there for each other physically (have each other's backs in a dogfight and whatnot) but emotionally? I don't think they knew how to show each other they cared for each other emotionally.

I liked your thoughts on this a lot.. Thanks. =)

[damao2010.livejournal.com]

"I never thought that Kara and Lee were friends either "...it was all teasing and friendly banter. But they always locking their true emotions up. That's not real friendship. "

Yes, friendship is not the best word to describe their relationship. In some ways they were so much more than that. They knew each other from before and it seemed as if Kara was the only person who was allowed to see certain parts of him and she was the only one he confessed his death wish to. The same was true for her: in lots of ways he was the person who knew her the best. And when it mattered the most, they certainly supported each other unconditionally.

However, most of the times, they failed so miserably at communicating and they were both so afraid of their feelings that they kept lots of things bottled up. That is not friendship. You are not afraid of your friends (especially the best ones). They are the ones you open up to without restrictions. It is the fact that you are able to do so that makes you friends in the first place.

This whole discussion had me going back to something Rachelindeed wrote here a couple of weeks ago (http://community.livejournal.com/no_takebacks/50972.html?thread=3579932#t3579932):"Lee rarely emotionally connects with anyone, though he is protective of many" and "he has Kara, who pulls out of him every single emotional tie that he has such trouble offering to others: sibling, best friend, professional rival, lover, wife. She's his surrogate *everything.* She is a great, blazing, irresistable exception to his default "stand apart and be protective" mode. "

[entaiaime.livejournal.com]

I completely agree with you. You articulated what I was thinking so much better than I could. I love reading your posts! You are really insightful when it comes to Kara and Lee's relationship. BTW Thank you for the link.