"But she was under the misapprehension that he was a lot more like his father than he really was"
I couldn't agree more.
", I think, and I expect that it came as a shock to her that he would actually leave the military."
Well... we certainly know Lee more than she ever did (LOL) and it was a shock, so... I think we should cut her some slack her. hee
"I don't think she ever realized that he'd always felt like his military career and persona were poor fits for the passionately questioning side of his personality."
That is quite possible. As you said her "heart lies with the military" much more than his. I'd add that she idolized Adama much more than Lee, as well. However, I think she knew of his frustration and eventual disillusionment ( I mean, how could she not?) but she never thought it would go that far.
I guess a big problem is lots of marriages is that people delude themselves and try to conveniently ignore the aspects of their partner's personalities that they dislike or can't accept and then they delude themselves again believing the other person is going to change in the future. Perhaps that's what happened with her. She admired his Apollo persona but there were parts of his personality she couldn't accept but in her desire to have him ( or to settle), she chose to ignore those things and believe he would change (even that she might help him change) and that he would reach his full potential - becoming more and more similar to his father. When it became clear that wouldn't happen , she left.
Of course, all this is pure especulation since we never saw any glimpses of that. All in all, I think writers fail is , yet again, the best explanation.
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Date: 2010-07-16 11:54 pm (UTC)I couldn't agree more.
", I think, and I expect that it came as a shock to her that he would actually leave the military."
Well... we certainly know Lee more than she ever did (LOL) and it was a shock, so... I think we should cut her some slack her. hee
"I don't think she ever realized that he'd always felt like his military career and persona were poor fits for the passionately questioning side of his personality."
That is quite possible. As you said her "heart lies with the military" much more than his. I'd add that she idolized Adama much more than Lee, as well. However, I think she knew of his frustration and eventual disillusionment ( I mean, how could she not?) but she never thought it would go that far.
I guess a big problem is lots of marriages is that people delude themselves and try to conveniently ignore the aspects of their partner's personalities that they dislike or can't accept and then they delude themselves again believing the other person is going to change in the future. Perhaps that's what happened with her. She admired his Apollo persona but there were parts of his personality she couldn't accept but in her desire to have him ( or to settle), she chose to ignore those things and believe he would change (even that she might help him change) and that he would reach his full potential - becoming more and more similar to his father. When it became clear that wouldn't happen , she left.
Of course, all this is pure especulation since we never saw any glimpses of that. All in all, I think writers fail is , yet again, the best explanation.